|1_Luther go home!
Since long, I've had a dream of writing to all my friends on a regular
basis. Inspired by Sweden's foremost politician Carl Bildt (leader of
Moderaterna, Sweden's 2nd biggest political party, can be compared to
being somewhere in the middle of the Democrats and the Republicans,
although Bill seems to my uninitiated self to be moving right on the
political scale - check out www.moderat.se on the web), I want to
attempt to write a short letter each week, or at least each month...
Don't worry, it won't be a political letter, although it might sometimes
contain a few political ideas.
I will only send this to my friends who have supplied me with their
e-mail address. Snail mail is obsolete + plus too expensive and time
consuming if I'm going to write every week. However, some of you might
want to print it and give to some of my friends that refuse to use the
most important invention of this century (don't have e-mail). Cecilia
– please give a copy to Fredrik , Martin R - please give a copy to
Pelle G, Marv - give one to Mildred & Niels & Norm & Marion,
John - give one to Mike, Dom - share with Linda, Åsa - give a copy to
Anna F, Volle - forward to Harry V's new e-mail whatever it is. THANKS!
OK, so all you Swedish friends reading this are saying to yourselves
"why is he writing in English?", but then rapidly decide to
take it as another proof of my weirdness. That's cool. Well, if I'm to
attempt writing every week, I don't want to write two versions. Everyone
I know understands English. If you don't, simply stop reading this
letter or get HELP...
WHY am I writing this letter? For many reasons. I want for you to get to
know me better. I would love to receive more letters from you, I want to
get to know you better than is achieved in bars with loud music or at
"grown-up gettogethers where almost nothing but work and career is
being discussed". - Also, eventually, I want to become a famous
author, and this might be a way of starting to hone my writing skills.
And, like any bachelor, I want to be #1 on your invitation lists
including but not limited to whenever you decide to arrange funny,
crazy, outrageous parties with plenty of beautiful girls!
The reason I'm finally getting down to actually writing this letter now
is because of an exercise in a personal development program I'm doing
(Anthony Robbins has a series of excellent audio tapes called Power
Talk, his best book is "Awaken the Giant Within", but start
with Stephen Covey's "7 habits of highly effective people" if
you haven't read it. You can buy all this at www.amazon.com.)
This particular exercise challenges me to "let friends know you
love them in a fun, creative way": SO I JUST WROTE TO SAY I LOVE
YOU! (No, I'm not more crazy than usual). That was actually not so hard
to do. The tough part is when the exercise demands me "to share
some of your innermost secret thoughts with friends that you normally
wouldn't". WOW! Well, I am committed to going through with the
program so I will try to do just this in this letter. If you feel scared,
YES, I'm on vacation! I'm down in Falsterbo, which is south of Malmö in
southern Sweden. Falsterbo is where my family has spent most summers. As
usual, I had lots of visions and plans about my vacation. This summer I
pictured myself spending 6 weeks on the beach getting a dark tan +
driving around in my company car (MGF 1,8i VVC) + throwing and attending
outdoor BBQ parties, cooking lots of good food and doing at least 3
hours QiGong everyday... (Please check out www.mediqiakademien.se -
click on the welcome! button if you don't understand Swedish - a site
with excellent CONTENT. By the way, it's made by yours truly!)
But, the car is at the service-garage (never buy a car at BMW &
Rover in Solna, they are totally clueless about EVERYTHING), 1,5 of the
weeks I had to be in Stockholm fixing private tasks (paying bills,
dealing with unopened mail, filling out forms, fixing similar things at
work, YES I HAVE A SEVERE CASE OF PAPERPHOBIA, why can't they use EDI,
Internet and e-mail instead?!), it's cold and cloudy and raining most of
the time, and the chocolate cake I baked was horrifying to taste, not to
mention all the dish-washing and removing of chocolate stains from the
walls... "If you wanna make God laugh - Tell Him your plans!".
No, I'm not a Machiavellian cynic, I had a plan B. I take short walks on
the beach, then sit and stare at the ocean, do QiGong, meet friends
whenever they're not working or writing on their thesis’s , spend time
with my parents, read books, watch too much TV (why don't they have TV
on demand or at least cable or a satellite dish at Falsterbohus where
I'm staying so that one can choose from a greater variety? (No I can't
rent movies - no car...) I blame it all on Mr. Luther, they guy who made
being boring, negatively realistic, gray, silent and deprived of
self-confidence into a virtue and a fine art. He has written the program
by which most Swedes (and many others) still run their lives. I say
"Live with Passion", "Carpe Diem" & "I will
not be denied"!).
One thing I like to do when I have the time is to take a time-out and
reflect about myself and my life (Anthony Robbins books and tapes
provide good exercises) - now begins my secret thoughts... :
I moved to Stockholm about 2,5 years ago, starting to work (I have a
good job as a management consultant despite the Lutheran conviction I
used to have that "no one will hire me because of my
handicap"), have made quite a few achievements at work, and have
realized my dream of having a black sports car before the age of 30 (I
was 26 when I got it as a company car). I have many close friends, a
nice apartment, and above all a loving family.
The genetic disease I have (Friedreich's Ataxia) is naturally a pain.
Research is making major advances, and will eventually come up with a
cure. One plus with the disease is that I've come to learn a lot about
QiGong and traditional Chinese medicine. I got to undertake the
wonderful 4-week trip to Beijing last year where I studied for a famous
QiGong master and visited several Buddhist and Taoist monasteries, not
to mention all the other sightseeing and especially getting to know some
really special people. I might write a NY Times #1 best-selling book
about this one day... I've also become a more harmonious, agreeable,
open-minded and HUMBLE person! (Those of you that haven't noticed know
it now anyway).
All in all, I've DONE, experienced and traveled (All over USA including
the Hawaiian islands, Europe, been to Africa, China. WOW! ) A LOT.
So NO, I'm not asking "Why me God?!!!", but when I look at the
whole picture I'm very grateful for my life so far, and focusing on how
to create more special moments and experiences for myself and those
around me, how to design and direct the rest of this wonderful gift
One thing I believe is that I want to make an effort not to work
over-time. I've never heard an old person saying they spent too little
time in the office. So I will try to live by this wisdom.
Another area that needs improving is my love-life. I definitely want to
be married with children within the next ten years. I don't even have a
girl-friend. Before I was handicapped, I had several girl-friends.. Thus,
it's easy to construct the conviction "girls don't want a
relationship with me because of my handicap - anything else would be to
delude myself, getting a good job was easier, I better ignore girls
until there is a cure and focus on other dreams and goals, She will
appear if and when Fate wants to". But I'm a positive proactive
person and refuse to buy into such negativity - I know that I'm -
despite my poor walking - a hell of a lover!
But I notice that - before I was handicapped - my relationships where I
"made and successfully carried out a plan to enter her life and
sweep her off her feet " never worked out longer than a month or
so. So, using this empirical evidence, I play it passively (don't focus
on pursuing girls) and convince myself that it will all work out way
better than I can now imagine, and that I - despite my passivity - don't
buy into the negative belief "girls don't want a relationship with
me because of my handicap - anything else would be to delude myself,
getting a good job was easier, I better ignore girls until there is a
cure and focus on other dreams and goals, She will appear if and when
Fate wants to".
I also want to improve my relationship with my parents and sister, input
would be greatly appreciated!
One thing I think about is that so many of my friends have been living
in Stockholm for quite a while now, and we never seem to find the time
to meet as much as I would like to. How can we enjoy each other more?
I'm presently focusing on enjoying life more, how to have more fun and
outrageousness. I would like it if you wrote me about how YOU enjoy life
in general and maybe how you enjoy your vacation?
CIAO FOR NOW,
NOTE - since one of the virtues I'm pursuing is
to avoid speaking with
certainty - I'm trying to "see both sides of both sides" [thanks
after all, it's very little we REALLY know, which is expressed in one of
favorite QUOTES: "All of us sit in a ring and suppose, the truth
the middle and knows" - so please add a big fat question mark and
such as "I presently feel" or "it seems to me at the
moment" around any
offensive statements above.
PS! I have share the following story (thanks
Imagine there is a bank that credits your
account each morning with
It carries over no balance from day to day.
Every evening it deletes whatever part of
the balance you failed to use
during the day.
What would you do?
Draw out every cent, of course !!!!
Each of us has such a bank.
It's name is TIME.
Every morning, it credits you with 86,400
Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever
of this you have failed to
invest to good purpose.
It carries over no balance. It allows no
Each day it opens a new account for you.
Each night it burns the remains of the day.
If you fail to use the day's deposits, the
loss is yours.
There is no going back.
There is no drawing against the "tomorrow".
You must live in the present on today's
Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in
health, happiness, and
The clock is running.
Make the most of today.
To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a
student who failed a grade.
To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a
mother who gave birth to a
To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the
editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the
lovers who are waiting to
To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a
person who missed the train.
To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a
person who just avoided an
To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND, ask
the person who won a silver
medal in the Olympics.
Treasure every moment that you have! And
treasure it more because you
shared it with someone special, special
enough to spend your time.
And remember that time waits for no one.
Yesterday is history
Tomorrow is mystery
Today is a gift
That's why it's called the present!!
It's National Friendship Week
Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed.
They make you smile and encourage you to
They lend an ear, they share a word of
praise, and they always want to
open their heart to us.
Show your friends how much you care.....
Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND.
If it comes back to you, then you'll know
you have a friend for life.
Let's show our friends how much we
appreciate them and what they mean to
HAPPY FRIENDSHIP WEEK!!!!!!!!!
ALL WRITINGS (C) PETER CEDERHOLM they
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