|5_FUN - THE MEANING OF LIFE?
I want to begin by saying that I am today very
far from the immature 18-year old who pulled the First Kiss
Trick (see the previous weekletter). I have evolved
to much higher planes. I have changed a lot during
the 10 years that have passed since this incident.
I wrote about it because I thought it would
make people laugh with me in remembering this -
in my opinion - amusing episode of my life.
However, nobody got hurt, so I am not ashamed of
"Everybody's looking for a reason to live.
looking for a reason I've a reason to give.
Pleasure, little treasure".
These lines from a song by
Depeche Mode captures the essence of this weekletter.
Fun. Think about it. What does it mean to have
fun? What do you do to
have fun? Do you have fun every day?
Or, are you presently focusing on having fun somewhere
in the distant future? When this phase of life
is successfully completed. When you're through with
the grindstone. When you've climbed to the top of
the ladder of success. When you've reached the end
of the rainbow and finally have enough money to pursue
your dreams and lead the life you've always wanted.
THEN... Yes, what then? Couldn't you do something
of that NOW, in the present?
It is perhaps easier to define the opposite -
not having fun. We are
all better - I think - at knowing what
is boring, depressing, sad - what is not fun. Just
flip on the evening news and notice all the horror,
step outside in the bonechillingly cold darkness.
Many people go to a job every day that they
hate. Do things that they hate when they come home.
Day in, day out, year after year? WHY? TO WHOSE
One diligent student often said "Who said
life is supposed to be
fun?" Do we need fun in our lives? If so,
why? This depends upon how we define fun. One way
of defining it is to "enjoy life". Or is there a
difference between enjoying life and
I think most people at the end of their lives
wish they had enjoyed
life more. Do you try to create some
enjoyment in every day of your life?
Can fun - or at least joy - be found in
perfection? In a
relationship? Maybe in a perfect relationship? "There
is no perfect woman and you are not perfect, the
question is : are you perfect for each other?"
(Quote from the movie Good Will Hunting)
Personally, my relationship with perfection is
not the best. On the
one hand, I have a longing for the perfect
perfection in my apartment that can be seen in
the movie "9 1/2 weeks". My spirit is pleased and
my soul soothed by clean,
uncluttered, simplistic, "zen-buddhistic"
rooms. On the other hand, I have too
many things I want to do that it would cost me way
too many sacrifices to find the time to have this
perfect perfection in my home.
- what can I do to have more fun?
- how can I have fun more often?
- at the end of each day "what have I
have I contributed and how have I enjoyed this
THE MEANING OF LIFE
What is the meaning of life?
Is it to have fun?
Is it to have things, to "succeed in your
become disgustingly rich?
Is it to marry and have kids?
Is it to follow your heart's desire and pursue
Some argue that - since we can not take anything
with us - the purpose of living is
Others strive for success with self: "Real
success is success
with self. It's not in having things but in
having mastery, having victory over self."
Is the meaning of life to have a harmonious
balance between all
Maybe this question is a zen coan without answer?
I do not know. I will leave you with this quote:
"Ultimately, man should not ask what the
meaning of his life
is, but rather must recognize that it is he who
is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life;
and he can only answer to life by answering for
his own life; to life he can only respond by being
responsible" Victor Frankl
I welcome receiving your ideas about Fun and the
Meaning of Life!
Until the next time, remember to LIVE WITH
ALL WRITINGS (C) PETER CEDERHOLM they
may not be distributed in any way - except sending the link to this
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